Are You Broken?
The answer, my friends, is no. Humans don't "break." We are born, we spend our individually allotted time here in our bodies on this beautiful planet, and then we move on to our next incarnation. During the time we are here, we have experiences...lots of them! Some of them are good, some not so good. And the amazing supercomputer between our ears takes it all in, records it, and decides how we will behave and respond to life, based on these experiences.
These life experiences, including all their sensory aspects, get encoded in the subconscious part of our brain. This explains why we tear up when we hear our beloved mother's favourite song on the radio, or the smell of apple pie instantly gives us warm feelings, as we are transported back to being a five year old in grandma's kitchen, looking longingly at that pie, fresh out of the oven.
Our brains link our experiences to emotions, and then recycle these patterns, over and over throughout our lives. These conditioned responses that develop over time become our default mode, like the software installed on a computer. You probably think that you have control over your behaviour, right? I mean after all, if you are reading this, then you are probably a "grown-up," and what self-respecting "grown-up" doesn't have control over their behaviour, right? ;)
In actual fact, our subconscious brain really "runs the show," being responsible for between 90-95% of our behaviour. This is why, when you feel stressed, you feel compelled to eat that apple pie, and not just a slice, but the whole darn thing! You are not eating because you are hungry in that moment, but because you have subconsciously linked that pie to grandma's love, and what better remedy when you are feeling stressed than the feeling of grandma? ;)
Not surprisingly, the experiences with the strongest emotional charge, positive or negative, tend to take up the most real estate, and thus have the biggest impact on how we perceive and respond to our world. Thus, when the stresses of life are piling up, and we find ourselves feeling "broken," physically or mentally, it is helpful to recognize that we are just responding to these challenges with the information and the programming we have in our brains. It is very difficult to respond to challenges from a place of clear-headedness and calm, when our brains are predominantly running programs based on struggle, trauma and hardship. So, it is not that we are "broken," but that our internal "programming" could stand an upgrade.
Based on this, it is easy to see how those of us who have experienced the most trauma and hardship, particularly as children, will face the most difficulty adapting to, and flourishing within, the inevitable challenges of life. We have all heard the idea that there are only two things we can be sure of in this life...death and taxes. I would suggest that there is a third, even more profound certainty....change! Our ability to adapt to change is a strong indicator of the level of contentment, success and satisfaction in our lives. Resiliency and adaptability are crucial to enjoying our lives.
The good news here is that there is a way to change the "programming" in your brain, through the use of neuro-plasticity techniques. It is possible to flush out the events and experiences that are the emotional "drivers" for the unwanted patterns and outcomes in our lives, and with the right guidance, and persistence, change this "programming." What if you could learn to release the pain of the difficult experiences in your life, and hold onto the lessons learned? As Dr. Joe Dispenza says, "A memory without the emotional charge is called wisdom."
Even better news, is that this process does not have to be painful and heavy. If you truly want to make changes to your internal programs, and are willing to be persistent, you can create a whole new you! I can help guide you through the process of finding the difficult parts of your past that are holding you hostage, and changing how your brain stores and uses this information on a daily basis...and we will likely have some laughs while we do it! I will also teach you how to engage in this process for yourself, so you can keep things going in the right direction. Emotional empowerment, yes please! :) As your emotional and mental state changes for the better, your body will follow suit.
Are you ready to release the parts of your past that weigh you down, and step forward into a healthier, happier version of yourself? Are you ready to become more emotionally intelligent, and learn how to handle the ups and downs of life with more grace and ease? Are you ready to put down your "broken" identity? There is nothing wrong with you...you are just running programs that your brain has learned to keep you safe, and these old programs are not serving you anymore. Our bodies are incredibly resilient....let's install some new "software" and get you on the road to a healthy, fulfilling life that you love!
So, the answer to the question of "are you broken?" is a resounding "NO!"
Let's do this!